The non-smoking and free wireless internet access at my favorite Starbucks restaurants in Beijing combination allows for my spending hours and hours each week in the comfortable environment. With music in my ears and a computer in front of me I focus, for hours at a time, on my work -most days. The occasional chat session occurs when friends visit. The commute to and from my favorite Starbucks lasts anywhere from eighteen to 23 minutes depending upon how many red lights I catch. During each commute and during a bit of my Starbucks alone time I analyze many of my interactions as well as interactions of others around me in China. From my limited experience here I see that Chinese women hold the control. If I pursue any kind of relationship with a Chinese woman I will give control of that relationship over to her. Being the control person that I am I do not see that occurring.